Thank you for this opportunity! Opportunity to look at my marriage, revisit my fears in a safe place, and learn to share them with the man that holds my heart. Thank you for providing a secure place where my husband and I could learn how to communicate… and most of all, that we are not broken because of each other and unfixable. Instead, it is not our fault, and together we can have what we both want, a connection, through better communication and identifying the dance. This weekend has allowed me to see my husband more as a man with feelings and the importance of talking about our feelings in a safe way. I didn’t realize what part I played until this weekend and I really appreciate that. Thank you.

I must admit that I was skeptical coming to your workshop. Having witnessed my parents attend a “Marriage Encounter” weekend back in the 80’s that didn’t go so well, I had a lot of fear that this weekend would make things worse. Not so!. I am so grateful for the closeness my husband and I have been able to achieve. The exercises were orchestrated in a way that allowed us to establish a deep level of trust that was necessary to break through fears that we’ve secretly been dealing with for decades. I have a certain amount of regret that we’ve wasted so much time. But I am so happy to be leaving here today in a place in our relationship that is both vulnerable and strong. You have helped us by giving us tools to move past hurt, fear, anger, and shame. Thank you.

This workshop experience has been one of the most profound experiences of our marriage. Although my husband and I communicate often, we can now identify our demon dialogue and we hope to have countless successes stopping it in its tracks. We’ve learned that we are not one another’s enemies. Moreover, the “forgiving injuries” portion provided us with essential tools for moving on after hurts occur in our marriage. The activities and models (via video) helped us view our own relationship with a new lens. I’ve learned the rationale for many of my behaviors. I have the utmost confidence that your delivery, presentation, and tools will strengthen our marriage. Best regards.

I feel like this weekend has changed my life! I felt like our relationship would never be okay, but you have given me hope. We now have tools and I feel we will be okay. It will be hard work but it is worth it. Both of you are exceptional facilitators. You know so much about the topic and leave no stone unturned. Please continue your great work! Thanks again.

The experience of the workshop has been an eye-opening one and I’m truly grateful that we came to this point at an earlier stage in our marriage and establishment of our family. I’ve gained new confidence in myself and the bond with my wife this weekend and am able to take these newfound tools with me to continue to strengthen our relationship. I was so unsure of my connection with my wife and truly crippled by my own insecurities before going through the workshop that I would have continued down the same hopeless path. Thank you so much for the gift you’ve given us and the breath of fresh air that I now feel like I have. I will never forget this experience and it’s been one of the most meaningful experiences of my relationship with my wife, so from the bottom of my heart, thank you!

Thank you so much for this experience. Thank you for creating a safe environment for me and my wife to share our deepest emotions. While at times raw and deep, the exercises and conversations you helped facilitate will surely help us in growing a deeper and richer bond in our marriage. From the bottom of our hearts, thank you.

Thank you, thank you, thank you for the opportunity to offer this workshop experience – it truly has been wonderful. I needed to really become focused on how important this relationship process is in my life – to cherish and honor what a great fortune and gift I have in my relationship with my wife. I have renewed hope and optimism for life! Thank you for your service, thank you for your expertise and professionalism. I would highly recommend this workshop to any couple at any stage in their relationship.

I was apprehensive before arriving at the workshop not knowing what to expect. You both did a great job of relieving the apprehension with your approach to things. I learned a lot from the experience and it felt good to know we’re not the only ones going through the challenges. The material struck multiple chords within me and made me realize several of the pitfalls we fall into. You guys gave me insights and triggers for me to recognize in our relationship to help avoid falling into some traps we tend to fall into. I would highly recommend this workshop, with you guys particularly, to anyone.

Thank you for sharing your time and knowledge with my husband and me and the rest of the group. It was a very emotional experience to be a part of – and I even got so much out of watching other couples have breakthroughs here this weekend. I am feeling raw from all we discussed, but it’s a good raw. Forcing me to bring issues to the surface even though it is much safer to keep them stuffed away. I leave knowing my husband loves me very much, that we still have a lot to work on, but also that we have come a long way! Hopefully when we walk through our “thorn bush” we will start to stop before we get stuck in it. And maybe eventually we will cut that “thorn bush” down. Many thanks.

This session meant and impacted us so much and hit home more than ever – the do’s and don’ts – staying away from the demon dialogues. I truly loved and appreciated the safe and secure environment that was created through this workshop which allowed us to explore our relationship without falling into any dangerous pitfalls we so often find ourselves in. We came close but managed to come back and regroup. I just hope and pray we can take these tools and lessons and create a safe place ourselves when in the face of adversity. It feels like we may be able to help ourselves to create a safer and more loving relationship because of the workshop awareness. At the very least avoid the triggers that create the demon dialogues. Thank you.

I love my husband deeply and feel blessed, but have had a place of “missing” something. Being taught and then invited to experience what was learned opened up a piece to our relationship that is so valuable. I have unfairly accused my husband of being shut down emotionally when in reality water seeks its own level. Debi gave me courageous feedback about my own disconnected process so I could then slow down and be more available. Both of you do a good clear job of explaining the Hold Me Tight process. You both exude respect for the model and a playful appreciation for one another. This has been a great opportunity for strengthening our loving connection. Oh if others would be able and willing to partake it would make a huge difference in their marriage.

Wow. Thank you so much for your time, your effort, your passion, and most of all, your authenticity and vulnerability in running this workshop. What a special two days – time carved out of a chaos-filled life – it was an amazing gift to be here and focus on our marriage. You both have a fabulous and warm partnership that complements and balances each other and gives a rich, rounded touch to the HMT curriculum. Thank you so much!!!

The workshop was a positive experience, I learned some things about myself that will help me be in touch with my feelings. It is hard to put aside what your brain is telling you and think with your heart. It made me realize how your growing-up experiences are still with you and you bring them to your relationship. I hope I can use some things I’ve learned to keep improving our relationship. I was skeptical about this workshop – tried to read the book – wasn’t too interested. But I found that seeing other husbands dealing with similar issues was helpful. Thank you both for caring enough to share your own feelings and presenting an interesting program.

Thank you both for spending some individual time with us as a couple during the workshop. I really appreciated Alan suggesting that I take and celebrate the moments of connection and vulnerability that my husband and I could share, rather than pursuing ruthlessly for more and staying/hiding behind my own protective walls. I enjoyed the pretty, sweet and loving music used during the workshop. I have been grateful for the opportunity we’ve had to learn more about our relationship and how to create our own special connection! Thank you always!

Thank you for putting together such a compelling, well facilitated two days. The rhythm and tone you set were excellent and the mix of provocative clips, whole group discussions, and dyad work was a nice set of complementary experiences. We’ve been working with several marriage counselors over the course of our marriage and this is the first time we’ve interacted with the EFT framework. We found this framework to be particularly helpful, more than any other tools we’ve used. Thanks again; you are all pros.

Thank you. This workshop came at a perfect time. I feel like this workshop brought so much together for us and catapulted us to the next level, a good level. I think this has brought us closer together as a couple and in our relationship, even though personally we may not be at the same place emotionally or vulnerably. As I said out loud to the group, having the time and space over the two days allowed me – I think both of us – to be more vulnerable and take more risks – than we can in 1-hour sessions a few times a month. This workshop has catapulted us to another level. Thank you.

My hope for this workshop was that it would be the thing that I needed to ultimately make some tough decisions about my marriage. I was nervous and exhausted just thinking about the work we were going to do. What I found instead is that the days flew and the emotional connection we were able to achieve was beyond my expectations. Unlike our therapy sessions at times we were able to avoid our dance-off almost entirely and develop a new level of compassion and respect for each other’s thoughts and emotions. Thank you for your honesty and leadership through one of the most important times in our marriage. I feel more confident than ever that we are armed with all the tools we need in our toolbox to make it through our storms. Many thanks.

Thank you! For helping us identify us to move forward because that is what we wanted. So now I’m sure we will be together forever. All seven steps will be an awesome manual for us to live by.

As I mentioned in the introduction, this workshop was a Christmas present from my wife. I was expecting a grill (a really nice one). This was so much better. A much more thoughtful and lasting gift. We are both with drawers. We find it very easy to just walk away rather than face the issues head-on. There always seemed to be an elephant in the room. We recognize our demon dialogue is the retreat and defend pattern. We have agreed that we will try our best to stop the retreat when it starts. I am grateful to both of you for this experience. However, I am even more grateful to my loving wife for caring enough to take this leap for both of us.

Eye-opening for two days. I was not expecting to learn and feel so much in two days, but this was fantastic. Thank you for giving us a start in the right direction. I feel we found a new foundation and we needed it. Looking forward to what will happen next.

Thank you for so safely and sweetly sharing the importance of vulnerability, the importance of emotions, and sharing them, thus giving yourself and your relationship an honest chance and a more authentic chance at your deepest, truest love. You created such a comforting and relatable space and provided me with so much insight. I hope these tools and everything I learned help me to honor my truest self and be the best partner I can be in my relationship. Thank you.

Thank you so much for this workshop experience! My intention was to break a cycle in our relationship and my husband and I learned to accurately identify the place where we habitually stumble and fall into defensive and ineffective patterns. We can choose separation or we can choose connection. We learned how to interrupt the negative pattern and take steps to repair our connection. I learned we can start where we are, be willing to be vulnerable and self-responsible, and strengthen our commitment and bond moment by moment. Together we can heal. Thank you for creating a safe container to deeply explore our relationship, our longings, the places we fail, and the tools to help us repair and strengthen our bond.

I can’t think of any way that these concepts could have been more effectively delivered. You were both thorough and clear. Your expertise and skills were excellent! For so many years I struggled. I gave up on books and therapists. I can’t imagine another form of a couples workshop/therapy that would have been as effective as this was. A wary wife ready to face the end of a marriage, I leave hopeful and touched by my husband’s genuine participation and vulnerability.

Thank you for your time, passion, and conviction for your craft this weekend. Your workshop has helped me make connections in my present life from deep in my past that I never realized before. I truly believe my relationship is in a better, stronger, more fulfilling place thanks to this workshop.

Thank you for this experience. This is the first time I was ever truly vulnerable with my wife after eight years of marriage. It was a breakthrough moment. We both discovered the core of our fears and anxieties in our childhood and it was very illuminating.

Thank you so much for facilitating growth in my relationship with my husband through this workshop. The tools, songs, words, videos, breakout sessions, etc., all worked together beautifully to achieve positive results. We understand each other’s needs and vulnerabilities much more than before and have created a clean slate upon which we can build our future together. Here’s to another 42 years! Thanks a million.

Thank you for the workshop. I learned a lot, even from the first topic on “demon dialogues” – which now seems very obvious, although in nearly 25 years of marriage I hadn’t picked up on the concept myself! I think my wife and I are in a much better position to identify and interrupt our own demon dialogues and take steps to work through rocky moments and forgive and repair injuries. Thanks again!

Thank you for giving us the opportunity to participate in the Hold Me Tight Workshop. It was inspiring to see couples of all ages participating and making connections that they had been craving for a long time, some for decades. Watching some of these couples make breakthroughs with one another, heal and reach each other, gave me hope that I haven’t felt in a very long time. Marriage is so much harder than I ever imagined it to be as a girl and young woman dreaming of sharing my life with someone else. I am a huge believer in attachment and sharing your inner self, as well as being there for the most important person as the key to life and fulfillment. Your facilitation was incredible, caring, sensitive, and effective. My husband and I were able to build upon our love and open up to one another in ways that will lead to healing and I hope will make us better partners to one another.

Thank you for a wonderful experience. Not only did the workshop open my eyes to my relationship with my wife, but also into me. It was monumental in repairing what I believed what over. The caring you both showed is palpable. You have both made an incredible and long-lasting impact on me and my marriage. Thank you both.

I would like to thank you for providing us with an opportunity to grow. “Hold Me Tight” took us back to the beginning of our relationship and allowed me to see things much clearer. The exercises were challenging because many of our issues are due to my lack of communication. They helped raise attention to what I need to work on and how to address them. I had no idea what I was walking into and I am truly grateful for my experience. I would definitely recommend your workshop to all couples regardless of the condition or status of their relationship.

I can’t thank you enough for the care, tenderness, and skill you brought to us with this work. It has brought us closer together after a very rough road. I wasn’t sure but in just two days this blueprint offers building blocks and a template for how to practice and navigate our relationship by repairing and building healthy attachment. Your manner is very down-to-earth and disarming. Thank you.

I really enjoyed that you led off with expectations. Going right to Demon Dialogues helped me understand why we fight so much and to help to take steps to avoid them in the future. Touching on all of the interwoven aspects of emotions that elicit our reactions were especially helpful. We have been seeing a series of counselors that did not have as much effectiveness and the EFT method. Thank you.

Thank you for this experience. I found things about myself and about my partner I never anticipated. It was not what I expected – it was far more. I feel so eager to go out and be vulnerable. You two make a great team, and together with the great atmosphere of strangers being open to the group, I was able to dig deep into a wellspring of emotion.

Thank you for a great weekend couples retreat. You taught me a lot. Gave us new conversations with a new language. My wife and I have done some of this in therapy, but this helped put it all together. Your lectures were informative, the videos awesome, and the helpers helpful. I was surprised by all the participation in class, but that helped as well. Thanks.

Thank you both for your expertise and for presenting the material in a way that was digestible and enjoyable. We have often wondered where the manual for parenthood is but failed to seek out a similar guidebook for our marriage. We were naive to think that when we said “I do” almost exactly 10 years ago we were done with our courtship, In actuality, we were only beginning the process of knowing one another. I have learned the importance of growing through what we go through and thank you for giving my husband the foundation to meet me where I need him to be for us.

I want to thank you both for changing my life. This workshop has been a huge life-changing event. Where I thought there was no hope – you both showed me there was. Thank you both again.

I want to take the time to truly tell you what a wonderful, beautiful, important life-changing thing you are doing by educating people about relationships and how to maintain them even when it is hard to do so. Most workshops would have given just a presentation, but you helped us to use what we learned right away. I wish this material was a required class like math and reading. Thank you again for everything you have done to help us and everyone who has the privilege to attend this workshop and meet both of you. You are doing an amazing thing and hope you know how much of a difference you are making in people’s lives and families.

Thank you so much, a life-changing moment for me this weekend. I started to see myself for the first time with the most important person in my life. My wife is truly an amazing person that I’m blessed to be part of her life. This weekend with you both and the helpers, I was able to open up and cry and see that my relationship with my wife can grow and flourish. Thank you.

I want to say thank you from the bottom of our hearts. You have given us more in two days than we were able to find on our own in nine years. We were done with this relationship dance until we decided to give this one last chance. When we chose to do this workshop we weren’t sure what to expect. I never expected to get so much out of it. My partner and I feel like we can conquer anything now. Thank you again.

This workshop was eye-opening in so many different ways. I think coming here to this workshop saved my relationship. My other half has never opened up to me in 13 years as much as he did today. So I really wanted to thank you both for somehow making that happen. I have lost so much in my life. I didn’t want to lose him as well. What I mean is my grandparents raised me for the most part, and they were the ones to show me happy, loving moments. I lost my grandfather when I was 19, my mother died when I was 21, and most recently my grandmother passed. I am not close to my Dad. So I basically lost everyone who cared about me. I came into this thinking I was going to lose my other half too. I don’t feel that way anymore. I thank you both for giving that to me. Giving me the tools to get my life and happiness back. Thank you both for all your help.

I really enjoyed this workshop. You have given me the tools to listen to my partner and to open up and be vulnerable. We are closer now than we have ever been in the 13 years we have been together. To have the ability to open up and truly be vulnerable with the one you love is an amazing experience. This workshop helped me get the love back in my relationship that was hidden under the hurt and pain from the continued dance we were putting each other through. Thank you so much.

Thank you for sharing your time, experience, and knowledge with us this weekend. When we signed up, we had no idea what the program was about. I learned a great deal not only about how to communicate with my wife, but why I do and act the way I do. I believe you have given us the tools for a better marriage. After being together for 47 years, you think you would know everything there is to know and understand each other. I am very glad to say that the time was well spent and I have a whole new perspective and understanding of my wife. Thank you again.

Thank you so much – what a terrific workshop – so well run – so professional – so respectful of our feelings. We were all going through our relationship challenges and you were able to allow us and teach us to do it in a gentle, thoughtful, private matter. We touched on some very deep raw spots without defenses – our fences going up – the tools provided allowed us to resolve our communication issues and focus on the actual issues/feelings. We are just so grateful!

I want to thank you for how you’ve helped my wife and I. The workshop has opened my eyes in a number of ways and has given perspective and new light on some issues. We will do nothing but grow because of this workshop.

Thank you for a powerful, transformative, and healing weekend. It exceeded my expectations! Thank you for that! My husband and I got so much out of it. I feel positive and encouraged about our future. You both made the experience comfortable and safe and had a great, easy presentation style.

Your workshop was excellent in showing the most important thing in life is our relationships and how to become better at them. It’s helped me to see the areas I need to take responsibility for and how to improve the way I relate to significant people in my life. This needs to be implemented in our school systems to help us develop a healthy sense of self before attempting to be there for someone else in a healthy relationship. I have many takeaways which I intend to use in all my relationships, especially with my significant other. Thank you so much.

The experience was very intimate. It allowed me to connect with my wife on a much higher level and become more empathetic to her needs and desires. Additionally, my wife and I opened up with each other and easily shared our inner feelings. Thank you for your effort, time, and knowledge of marital connections.

I want to thank you both for providing my wife and I a chance and vehicle to reconnect. The materials you provided allowed me to shed my armor of pride and be introspective. That is something I needed to do. The exercises were great! They were perfect for drawing out the issues that needed to be resolved. This workshop laid the groundwork for our ability to regain what was lost in our relationship. I believe part of what assisted me was being in a room with others that had similar issues as us. I am so looking forward to loving my wife with confidence and more importantly being loved.

Wow! I can’t believe how far my wife and I progressed in only 2 days. Our therapist said we would find it very helpful, but I never expected it to do so much for us, especially for me. I finally realized what I was doing wrong and how it affected my wife. All of the downstream issues came back to me withdrawing and closing off our emotional bond. How powerful to realize that and express it to her and to tell her how I really feel!! I’m looking forward to the future and no longer afraid we will fail. Thank you so much!

As a newly married couple – this workshop was a gift from a family member who felt passionately that we attend – this has been so beneficial for our future. We’ve been given the tools to become aware of our deep vulnerabilities and how to share them with each other in a safe and positive manner. Thank you.

Your course was amazing, something in it for every and all couples. Your insights and perspective are a revelation for some, insight for others. The tools and steps needed to let all of us know it’s okay to be human, okay to feel, and okay to fail. With the purpose to come together and the steps and goals to reconnect. Connection is human, to hurt is very real, and tapping both is the course for a successful outcome and lifetime ahead – together. Thank you!!

I really enjoyed the workshop. It really helps to see our marriage from the outside by coming here. I feel like me and my wife live in twin bubbles and your workshop helped me see outside the bubble. It also helps to see all the couples who are having the same problems. I really enjoyed the videos and the exercises. I know we have a long way to go but I feel very optimistic about my marriage which I haven’t felt for a long time. I want our marriage to keep getting better and I think your workshop will help us get there.

Thank you for presenting this important information to couples in need. We were referred to the program by our therapist. We have been very disconnected as a couple for two years. This weekend has allowed us to open up to each other’s vulnerability without shame. I would recommend this program – I think it is an excellent idea for young couples to engage in before marriage. Thank you.

Thank you for creating a powerful and emotionally moving two days. We never would have done this on our own. I am very grateful to both of you for your time and thoughtfulness. I am taking a new level of understanding home with me, of what my husband needs, and a newfound confidence that I can give it to him (this is big)! The format and structure took us to a much deeper, more felt level. Thank you.

Thank you, thank you, thank you! Two weeks ago I was sitting in a hotel room alone while my daughter and husband sat at home. I was there because of a huge argument we had the night before. I spent that night researching and reading about ways to save my marriage – I was at rock bottom and desperate. It was your website that gave me hope and the energy to give it another try. I didn’t think twice about it. I signed up that evening, went home the next day, and showed my husband – and here we are. Thank you for the knowledge, examples, expertise, etc., that you both have given to us so we can finally take these gloves off and love one another (naked and in the open).

This weekend was so powerful. We have been married, unhappily, for 13 years. We were introduced to EFT as a last-ditch effort because we were separated. We have been through years of counseling and no sizable or measurable difference in our marriage. We had breaches (many). EFT saved our marriage four months ago. This has been the most fulfilled I have been in my marriage ever. This weekend has helped pull together the pieces we were doing alone. I was blessed by the transparency of other couples. Thank you so much for sowing into the lives of not only our marriage, but our family, and potentially the lives of those around us.

This workshop gave us permission to open up and be vulnerable in such a safe environment. the amount of care that you both have invested in all of the couples is so evident. Thank you for giving us all of this. Thank you for helping my husband and I come back to each other after his affair, which left me in true despair. It’s true that love ultimately conquers all, and with connection and vulnerability, it is possible to start again and make your relationship stronger than ever before.

Thank you for such a beautiful experience. My husband and I are both therapists and have been in a lot of therapy as well. We hit a breakthrough in our HMT conversation – a new place we’ve never been before. He was able to hit a vulnerable place I had not ever heard of. I appreciate how well you delivered touch concepts in a well-distilled way. Your energy really carried the room! You respectfully wove together so many of our stories, from so many different places. I feel shaky as I write this because our last conversation was so raw, but I also see where we are headed. So thank you!

Debi and Alan, thank you for your time and effort in presenting the Hold Me Tight materials. I believe this time together with my wife discussing the various issues that caused problems in our marriage, will and has brought us the solutions which will help us develop more maturity in our relationship. That will bring us both happiness in the future.

Thank you for helping my wife and I begin the journey to get our relationship back. The workshop was very insightful and allowed us to access feelings we thought were lost forever. I fully intend to continue practicing what was learned here and apply it to my relationship.

You are both obviously passionate about what you do, and this specific type of therapy. It is evident in your teaching and the way you deliver the content. We’ve been to a couple of different therapists and have walked away with tools, but the process has always left us with more questions than answers. I feel as though this weekend has been very different. I understand where my wife is coming from with a different perspective and I feel as though we are leaving with a brighter future. Thank you for that.

This workshop exceeded my expectations. We had been to couples therapy in the past and these two days we have learned more than any sessions ever. The exercises were so helpful to actually use real-world issues with my partner. The concept of being vulnerable makes so much sense. The videos were so good and spot on emphasizing your points. I would highly recommend this workshop to everyone. When our kids get married we will give them this workshop as a wedding present – it is that powerful! I have been in the corporate world for 32 years and have given many presentations and seminars. Your delivery, engaging the audience, and the two of you complimented each other. Excellent public speaking skills! And sharing some of your personal stories was also powerful. Debi – your one on one with the audience was amazing. Alan – your demeanor, presence, and overall feeling were comforting to me. The skills I feel that I took away from this will absolutely help my marriage. Thank you for an amazing two days. I have never experienced anything quite like this and really can’t thank you both enough.

I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for saving our marriage! My wife and I came here and had no expectations – in fact, we were skeptical that we would go home any different from when we arrived. But then, miraculously, unexpectedly, suddenly and unbelievably, we had a BREAKTHROUGH”.

I am so glad we had this opportunity to begin to close the gap in my marriage. This has been a very powerful, moving, and eye-opening experience. This weekend workshop you presented was really what we needed and you both presented it in a great, warm, informative manner. Too many great things to say about this weekend! Thank you.

Thank you both for this invaluable weekend. This was a safe place to talk, listen and learn from you both about effective ways to communicate with each other, how to create an environment where my husband could come forward and say the things he needs to say, and I would know how to respond to keep communication open. It was enlightening to see other couples at various stages in their relationships and relate to their stories. This was a great experience.

Thank you so much for offering this opportunity. We have so much good that comes naturally to us in our relationship but when our Demon Dialogue sneaks up on us quickly and out of nowhere, we are a disaster. Thank you for your expertise, insight, vulnerability, sense of humor, patience, and care. We loved the entire workshop, including all of the visuals and music. Much success to the two of you.

What I most want to say is thank you! This class was meaningful, insightful, and original. The impact will stay with us for a long time. Again, great thanks.

Thank you for the last two days. Although I had listened to the audiobook, the power of the program, the sharing, and the structure that you brought to the exercises gave us the tools to be closer. Thank you.

It is a very emotional subject, and it was comforting and relaxing to see Debi’s obvious emotional response during her presentation. It makes it so much more heartfelt and so much less clinical. Alan’s complementary input and banter between both were very helpful and sometimes funny! I think the workshop has been a wonderful format for this – support and knowledge from other couples, knowing and proving that our issues, and ourselves, are not unique, while also allowing time alone together worked very well for us. Thanks. Great job!

Thank you so much for this experience. The hardest part was to admit we had a problem and sign up to come. Being fairly young, I was worried we were going to feel out of place. You welcomed us right in and commended us for giving this “gift” to ourselves at such a young age. I honestly think every couple can benefit from this workshop. No matter how big or small an issue you may be facing, the tools are so universal and can be applied to so many situations. I especially loved the songs and videos. Some of these will stay with me forever. Thank you for giving us this gift – I hope other couples benefited as much as I have and will continue to do so in the future.

Thank you so much for an amazing and eye-opening two days. The concepts of “hold me tight” you presented to my wife and I have allowed me to take a breath and step back from our relationship to gain a much-needed perspective. I feel like you both have helped me remember the reason why I fell in love with my wife over 20 years ago. The exercises you gave us seemed so simple and yet had such a profound effect by slowing everything down. I love how you showed us to think of the demon dialogue as the so-called enemy as opposed to one another. That to me is so important and helps me to stop pointing the finger at my wife and realize the “cycle” is the problem. This awareness I believe will help both of us to dissolve so much of the pain that has developed over the years. You have a wonderful synergy between the two of you and this has helped make the seminar have a powerful effect on me. Thanks for everything.

Well, that was something. Really the one thing I keep coming back to is how my mind would wander in the break out sessions thinking about how nice it was to just sit, in the grass, under the sun, face to face, knees to knees, hearts wide open, with my perfectly imperfect handsome husband. You walked him back to me. And for that, I thank you.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You have given me the tools I need to be vulnerable and in doing so learn to love my husband more than I ever thought possible. The step-by-step instructions helped me touch places within myself I didn’t think could ever be allowed to surface. I also feel so much of what I learned can be used with my children and other relationships.

The experience of this workshop has opened a door that I did not know was closed. I had always asked my wife what she wanted from me, and I did not understand our problems until today. I now understand how to communicate with my wife, and how not to close down with her. Thank you both.

It was my idea to come to your seminar to learn how to connect with my wife. I was very skeptical about how it would go, power points, classroom, how could that help. I am pleased to say you have taught me how to connect with my wife. Thank you for teaching me how to fish, and not just feeding me with fish.

Thank you so very much for such a heartwarming couple of days. You both have been beacons of light for many couples, and you have lit the way for hope, vulnerability and intention to open up the hearts and souls of many. We thank you from the bottom of our hearts for your warmth, love and caring. We thank you for your healing and for your grace – you both are angels saving couples one heart at a time.

This workshop was incredibly important and effective. The presentation of the material was clear, direct, humorous and interesting. You provided a safe space for both of us so that we could share. This workshop environment is nonthreatening, which seems especially important to the men. I am a therapist as well and am quite familiar with the material, but going through this myself was quite moving. I am confident that we will benefit from the experience. We loved your energy, ability to be in the moment and humor. Thank you.

Wow. Thank you. I’m astonished at how much unfolded and came to light in just two days. Your workshop is a gift of light. I feel you have help a torch aloft for us. The journey and the path are tricky to navigate, and it can be hard for those of us who have allowed ourselves to push away the issues and focus on the business of life. Thank you for the powerful pause…the tools…the space. Your joyful energy Debi. Your soothing focus Alan.

Thank you! I haven’t spoken to my husband, other than screaming at him, in almost two years. This is true – two years!. I feel like we have now taken a step I once thought was impossible. We were planning to get a divorce. I am now planning to continue our journey in therapy. I feel so comfortable with the both of you. I usually never feel that way. This is the only method of therapy that we’ve had success with after years of working with other therapists. Thank you.

I was impressed by the workshop, even after being familiar with the Hold Me Tight book. What you went through was amazing for me, but I feel my husband was especially amazed. He told me how for the first time he understood what “tuning in” means. He had no idea that a successful apology needs going through the feelings of the hurt one. We have been discussing this so many times. Thank you so much. I truly admire your professionalism, enthusiasm and clear communication through these sensitive topics.

Thank you so much for clearing up our doubts that maybe we are not “in love” with each other any more. In this workshop I had the chance to tell my husband what I kept hidden for a long time, and I am so blessed that I got a positive response. I appreciate your motivation to help couples to spend more years together and to bond in their own special ways forever.

Thank you. This was an excellent workshop. I feel like you gave us a game plan or playbook to address our issues. We will use your guidance and keep working on things together.

Thank you. I can only say that the number of times it seemed you were talking directly to us was amazing. You created a very safe space for difficult conversations.

I was very reluctant to come to this conference. After two years of intermittent counseling, I had a hard time believing that this workshop would add anything to our relationship – despite positive reviews I had read online. I was incredibly surprised by the results of our work together here. The intensive nature of this workshop really pushed us to address our core issues more than we had in the past. We both feel committed to strengthening our relationship through the new techniques presented. Thank you.

Thank you for a great experience. I have pushed for counseling or a seminar for a long time. It was only after I retreated and withdrew that my husband woke up and saw what trouble we were in. He brought us here and I’m so glad this is where we landed. The theories and basis in attachment make complete sense to me. We have a lot of work to do with our own therapist. But this was a great start – a crash course to put us on track. Thank you.

Thank you for giving us the tools to renew our relationship. I came into this process fairly hopeless and I am leaving with a hope and a true commitment to my marriage and to my husband. I have never, ever felt this way or ever was willing to do this with anyone in 62 years. What you have given us is priceless and there is no amount of money that would be too much. Please let us know when your next workshop is. Thank you forever for these gifts. I will do my best to pass these gifts along. I am forever grateful.

Thank you for the work, time and patience that you have with others. And for being genuinely kind enough to card and go through the motions with people who are basically desperate to rekindle relationships with their spouse. In two days I have spoken with my fiancé more than I have for the past 3 – 4 years! When I say spoken to him, I mean with him listening, no distractions and no negative ‘here we go again” look on his face or him looking for the exit. I mean he actually listened! I felt heard and I noticed he was attentive to everything, just wanting to identify with MY FEELINGS, maybe even the pain in my voice. His speaking to me or you or even to the group was also huge for both him and I because we are such private people. I was a little bit skeptical about coming to the workshop when I heard about the number of couples, because I suffer from anxiety. Well, if it wasn’t for those people, it would have been so much less real for us. The sharing, and everything else we entrusted each other with was amazing. Thank you for that experience. It shows us that we are not alone and there’s nothing to be ashamed of. I will be sending my friends your way. All the best!

Thank you so much for a remarkable weekend. When we arrived here on Saturday morning I did not have a great deal of hope that our relationship would last into the next year. The tools you have us and your method of delivery have allowed us to start the process of removing the barriers that have kept us from having an open and loving relationship. I leave here with real optimism that we can grow together in our relationship and be the people that we want for each other. Thank you.

The weekend was emotionally draining but in a very positive way. I learned so may about myself and my partner. I will walk out of this with a fresh perspective of who I am as a person in turn will make me a better person to my wife and children. Thank you for breaking me down, I needed it.

Thank you both for your time and sharing your knowledge to help all of us here this weekend. It was nice to see a group of different couples in different stages with different issues all sharing their stories and feelings. The workshop helped me recognize triggers and raw spots in my partner. It helped me understand how to deal with them and avoid them. It gave me a good path to follow as I leave. I feel my partner recognized things he needs to change and work on as well, which will help us move forward. These two days have definitely given us a core foundation to start building on. Thank you.

Thank you so much for inspiring me to share my deepest emotions with my wife. To let down my defenses, to listen with empathy and not try to solve any pain she may have, but to ask how I can help. Now so much more hope for us, just in time. I feel growing together will be more possible now.

I want to say thank you for a wonderful workshop. The exercises we completed during the workshop really helped us to realize we have work to do. More importantly, we are willing to do the work and make our marriage last. My husband was initially closed to the idea of attending this workshop, but eventually agreed to attend. After this experience he has learned so much and I learned a lot as well. Thank you, and I hope you have future sessions where couples can attend as an ongoing series.

Thank you so much for this seminar. My husband and I signed up at the recommendation of one of our pastors, but we really were not sure what to expect. This is exactly what we needed. We have a deep love for each other, but we always seemed to misunderstand each other and would cycle through toxic patterns. Now I feel like we’re much more on the same page, and I think having a common toolbox and language will be such a game changer. I also feel like I’ve learned so much about how to be in a healthy relationship. I’m so excited to continue in this work, at home and hopefully with an EFT therapist. If you do continue to develop a Part 2, we will be there! Thank you again so much, I can’t really begin to describe what it’s meant.

This workshop was a blessing. My husband and I were able to hear each other for the first time in a long time. We still have a lot of work to do, but now we feel equipped to do so. Thank you.

At first when I came to the workshop I didn’t know what to expect. I knew I loved my fiancee, but also knew that there were minor flaws in our relationship. After the two day workshop, I’m so grateful for the tools I have learned. I feel that with these tools I can hopefully have a loving marriage and live happily ever after, because in the end, isn’t that what really matters?

Thank you for practicing your purpose and sharing your gifts in a way that brings people together in love using both feeling and process. The extra time spent on group sharing was very beneficial to me. It felt comforting to hear stories of other couples’ struggles and breakthroughs. Debi, I very much appreciate your attention to sexual trauma awareness – it adds a whole – next level – challenge that takes a particular kindness and love to work through. EFT is a gentle, kind, love centered approach to couple healing, which I believe is the goal of every couple. Thank you.

This workshop turned out to be so much more helpful than I could have hoped. We shared more deeply today than we have in a long time. We will go to EFT therapy after this because we do have a couple of deep issues to address. But I finally have a true knowledge that we are going to make it. I got back in touch with my love for him and he felt that clearly – and he also realized how distant we have become – and at least some of the reasons why. You are great at this. Thank you – you probably saved out marriage!

Your EFT workshop has shown me how to look at myself and not the imperfections of others. One of the biggest things was identifying and recognizing our “demon dialogues”. You do phenomenal work. Thank you.

This retreat was just what we needed. Your professional skills and talent exceeded my expectations! It was beautiful to be surrounded by others that experience similar issues to us. Sometimes you feel so alone and lost, bot looking around we are all dealing and learning to cope with relationship difficulties. We have learned so much and look forward to using the tools that you have given us. Thank you doesn’t seem like enough!

Wow. Its hard to put into words how powerful the past two days have been. We came to the workshop without knowing what to expect and have been blown away! The examples, tools and guidance that were provided have made a profound shift in my my wife and I view out connection and interact with each other. You’ve shown us how to build a path forward. Thank you both!